By: Brandon Mimick, Ed.D

If you are struggling to see leaders around you, I believe the time has come to look in the mirror and be honest about what role you play in this lack of leaders and what needs to evolve. Trust me, I have been in this position and had to step back, reflect, and be honest with myself about how I might be helping or hindering the process. When I did this, there were a few things I realized that I needed to do:

 

  1. Meet the student/s where they are at in the process. In order to improve, we must be realistic and honest about where we are in the improvement process. Realistic and honest. Realistically, I had to remind myself that the individuals I was working with and getting frustrated about were between the ages of 14 and 18. When I thought about what was frustrating me, it was that these individuals did not fully understand what it was that I was expecting out of them. Honestly, I realized I was working off of assumptions rather than a framework or standard. Here I was, a grown adult, frustrated with adolescents unable to find their way. I would liken it to asking a kid to walk across a minefield, at midnight, blindfolded, with me on the other end yelling, “Why aren’t you here yet?!” Instead, just imagine how much easier it would be if I were right next to the kid, walking the field with them, providing tips and guidance along the way – meeting them where they are at in the process. Even better, what if we took the blindfold off and added a flashlight and metal detector? But how do we do this?

 

  1. Define leadership. Again, as I touched on briefly before, when it came to the improvement process, I realized I was working off of assumptions (blindfold) rather than a framework and standards (flashlight and metal detector). Of course students were not living up to my expectations, I had never defined what it was that I envisioned of a leader and had not dedicated consistent, deliberate time towards equipping and empowering these students. In our system, we use “values” or traits we believe are necessary to possess and that allow us to flourish in times of need. Now, I could list those traits for you, however, I am not you and I do not know how you define leadership and/or understand what it is you and yours need in the context you find yourself. I will say this though, we have 10 “values” currently – and I know people who have used 3 and others who have used 12 – and of those 10, we are currently planning to combine two and evolve them to the next step as one value and then add an additional value we are now seeing needs some attention. But just having leadership defined and identifying traits necessary to enable and empower individuals does not do much good if that information is not shared. Again, consistent, deliberate time must be spent discussing, developing, and reaffirming this definition and these skills we associate with it. Anything worth doing takes time. If we are not willing to dedicate time towards the developmental process we should not be complaining when we are not seeing leaders around us.

 

  1. Take everyone on the journey. Now, we stepped away from that minefield for a second but let’s go back. Let’s be honest, it is most likely not one individual we are trying to get across that field, it is an entire team. In the beginning, our minefield was pitch black, the person crossing was blindfolded, and we were already across and yelling, “Hurry up!”  Now, the person crossing has the blindfold off, is equipped with a metal detector and flashlight, and has an adult standing next to them, guiding them through. Here comes the next question, if I need to get an entire team across, does it make sense then to bring the team over, one-by-one, across that field? Is it effective and efficient? What is going on with those individuals not actively engaged when they are not being guided across the field? From my experience, this is where I had the development process backwards. In the past, we had always identified a few individuals we believed had potential to lead and then attempted to take them under our wing to develop. However, we forgot to remind ourselves that the individual we identified was between 14 and 18. So, not only are we asking this individual to be different than those around them – during a time where all they want to do is to belong and be accepted by those around them – but then we have also asked them to disseminate all the information we are telling them to their peers, as well as be the authority figure amongst their peers to make sure everyone is doing what they are supposed to be doing. Easy. How are kids screwing this up? I finally realized we were putting these kids in a no-win situation and admitted a change needed to occur. Rather than spending time on only one or two individuals we identified with potential, we now spend time with the entire team, defining and describing leadership, and establishing standard so that what it is we – the team – expect is clearcut and lived up to as a team. Now, we have guys walking a challenging path together and helping each other along the way rather than one person struggling to pull people with them and/or a group resenting a peer because it was not them who was chosen to be the leader. Back to the minefield. We have now added a can of spray paint that marks our path as we walk across the field. Additionally, we are walking single-file, as a group, from one end to the other, working together and fully engaged by the process of the journey before us.

 

Want more leaders? Be honest with yourself. What role are you playing in the situation you currently find yourself and what needs to change for things to improve? Are you meeting the individual/s where they are in the process or simply screaming for them at the end to hurry up? Have you defined, verbalized, and developed what it is you are expecting the individual to live up to? And, are these expectations realistic? Again, things worth doing take time. These 14 to 18 year olds are going to make mistakes. However, if we are willing to invest time in them, supporting them along the way, and helping them to better understand what it is they are doing and what it is they are capable of doing, I am confident we will find our way across the minefield!

Brandon Mimick, EdD, CSCS, Bennington HS, NE:

Coach Mimick is currently in his 13th year at Bennington High School where he teaches Strength & Conditioning, is an assistance varsity football coach, and coordinates strength and speed programs for student-athletes throughout the year. Coach Mimick holds a doctorate in interdisciplinary leadership from Creighton University, is a Certified Strength and Conditioning Specialist (CSCS), a Registered Strength and Conditioning Coach (RSCC), and is Reflexive Performance Reset Level 1 (RPR). In 2018, Coach Mimick was named the Nebraska Coach of the Year by the National High School Strength Coaches Association (NHSSCA). Coach Mimick resides in Bennington with his wife, Casey, and his two daughters: Finnley (3) and Hattie (almost 1). You can follow and create a continued dialogue with Coach on Twitter @M_i_m_i_c_k.

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Be Where Your Feet Are: How Athletes Can Stay Present and Perform at Their Best

By Jesse Nguyen • May 1, 2026
Be Where Your Feet Are: How Athletes Can Stay Present and Perform at Their Best In sport, the difference between good and great often isn’t physical—it’s mental. One of the most powerful mental skills an athlete can develop is the ability to stay present. To be where your feet are. Not stuck replaying the last mistake. Not fast-forwarding to the outcome. Just fully locked into the moment you’re in. Because performance only happens now. Here are practical ways athletes can train that skill and show up at their best when it matters most: 1. Recognize When Your Mind Has Left the Moment You can’t refocus if you don’t first notice you’ve drifted. Common signs: Replaying a mistake (“I can’t believe I did that…”) Jumping ahead (“What if I miss this?”) Thinking about what others are thinking Awareness is step one. The goal isn’t to never get distracted—that’s unrealistic. The goal is to catch it faster. 2. Use a Reset Cue Have a simple, repeatable phrase or action that brings you back. Examples: “Next play” “Right here” “This moment” A deep breath + exhale This becomes your mental “home base.” Every time your mind wanders, you come back to it. 3. Anchor to Your Senses Your body is always in the present—even when your mind isn’t. Quick ways to ground yourself: Feel your feet in your shoes or on the field/court Notice your breathing Listen for a specific sound (whistle, crowd, ball contact) This pulls you out of your head and back into the moment. 4. Focus on Process, Not Outcome Pressure lives in outcomes. Freedom lives in process. Instead of: “I need to score” Think: “Clean first touch” “Strong follow-through” “Attack the ball” Process goals are controllable and keep you engaged in the present. 5. Create a Between-Play Routine The best athletes don’t leave focus to chance—they build it into routines. Between plays: Release the last moment (good or bad) Reset with a breath or cue Refocus on your next role This creates consistency, especially under pressure. 6. Accept Mistakes Faster Mistakes don’t hurt performance nearly as much as how long you stay stuck on them. Present athletes: Acknowledge it Learn (if needed) Let it go Lingering is what pulls you out of the moment. 7. Train Presence in Practice You can’t expect to be present in games if you don’t practice it. In training: Notice distractions Use your reset cue Refocus intentionally Mental skills are built just like physical ones—through repetition. 8. Simplify Your Focus Under Pressure When the moment gets big, your focus should get small. Instead of thinking about everything: Lock into one cue One job One action Clarity creates confidence. 9. Trust That This Moment Is Enough Often, athletes leave the present because they feel like they need to do more, be more, or control more. But peak performance comes from: Trusting your preparation Trusting your instincts Trusting the moment in front of you You don’t need to win the whole game in one play. Just win this moment. Final Thought “Be where your feet are” isn’t just a phrase—it’s a competitive advantage. When you’re present: You react faster You think clearer You play freer And most importantly—you give yourself access to the performance you’ve trained for. The next time your mind drifts, don’t get frustrated. Just come back. Right here. Right now.

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How to Deal With Comparison as an Athlete

November 11, 2025
Becky Meline, LIMHP MGCP Comparison is something every athlete faces — whether it’s comparing stats, playing time, body type, or social media highlights. In today’s world, athletes aren’t just competing on the field or court — they’re competing with what they see online. You scroll through Instagram and see a teammate posting highlight reels, another athlete committing to their dream school, or someone showing off their “perfect” body or training grind. Before you know it, you start questioning your own progress and wondering if you’re enough. Here’s the truth: comparison steals joy, confidence, and focus — three things every athlete needs to perform at their best. Let’s talk about how to manage it. 1. Recognize That You’re Seeing a Highlight Reel Social media shows the best moments, not the full story. That picture-perfect post doesn’t show the athlete’s struggles, failures, or late-night frustrations. Remind yourself that you’re seeing a filtered version of someone’s journey — not their full reality. When you catch yourself comparing, try saying to yourself: “I’m only seeing their highlight reel, not their hard days.” Grounding yourself in that truth helps bring the focus back to your own path. 2. Focus on Your Lane Every athlete develops differently — physically, mentally, and emotionally. Some teammates peak early, others find their stride later. Comparing your chapter 2 to someone else’s chapter 10 only hurts your growth. Instead, shift your mindset: Set your own goals — what do you want to improve this week? Track your own progress — celebrate small wins like better recovery, stronger mindset, or consistent effort. Remember your why — why you play, why you train, and what you love about your sport. When your focus is inward, comparison loses power. 3. Use Comparison as Feedback, Not Judgment Comparison isn’t always bad — it can become fuel when used the right way. Instead of thinking, “She’s so much better than me,” shift to, “What can I learn from her?” If a teammate has great confidence, work on your mental game. If someone’s faster or stronger, ask what drills or training helped them. Growth-minded athletes turn comparison into curiosity — not criticism. 4. Take Breaks from Social Media If scrolling makes you feel less than, it’s okay to step back. Unfollow accounts that trigger insecurity and follow people or pages that inspire healthy habits, positivity, and confidence. Try creating boundaries: No scrolling before or after practice 24-hour social media break after tough games Limit time on comparison-heavy platforms like Instagram or TikTok Protect your mental space the same way you protect your body — both impact performance. 5. Build Genuine Connections with Teammates Comparison can isolate you — but connection heals it. When you build real relationships with teammates, you realize that everyone has insecurities and goals they’re working toward. Support each other. Celebrate each other’s wins. When your team culture is rooted in encouragement instead of comparison, everyone performs better. 6. Remind Yourself of What Makes You, You No one else has your exact mindset, skills, story, or purpose. That’s your superpower. When you catch yourself comparing, pause and remind yourself: “I have my own strengths, and I’m working on becoming my best self.” Confidence grows when you anchor your worth in who you are — not in how you measure up to others. Every athlete struggles with comparison — it’s part of being human. But learning to manage it is part of becoming mentally strong. Focus on your growth, surround yourself with supportive people, and remember that your path doesn’t have to look like anyone else’s to be meaningful. You’re building your story — and that’s something worth being proud of. Becky Meline, LIMHP MGCP Licensed Clinician & Certified Performance Coach

Growth Mindset: The Key to Overcoming Perfectionism in Sports

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Becky Meline, LIMHP MGCP Every athlete wants to succeed—or at least feel that they have reached their highest potential. You train hard, set goals, and push yourself to reach your potential. But sometimes, that drive for success turns into something heavier — the pressure to be perfect. When every mistake feels like failure, confidence and joy in the sport can quickly fade. Perfectionism in sports is one of the main culprits that bring athletes into my office. That’s where mindset comes in. Understanding whether you’re operating from a growth mindset or a fixed mindset can completely change how you handle mistakes, challenges, and even perfectionism itself. What’s the Difference? Fixed Mindset: A fixed mindset believes that your abilities and talents are set in stone — you’re either “good” or “not good” at something. Athletes with this mindset might think, “I’m just not fast enough,” or “If I mess up, it means I’m not talented.” Mistakes become threats. Feedback feels personal. Failure means you’re “not enough.” Growth Mindset: A growth mindset sees abilities as things that can be developed through effort, practice, and learning. Challenges become opportunities to grow. Mistakes are feedback. And setbacks are simply part of the process of getting better. This mindset says, “I can learn from this,” or “I haven’t mastered it yet. How Mindset Affects Perfectionism Perfectionism often grows out of fear — fear of not being good enough, of disappointing others, or of making mistakes. When you have a fixed mindset, that fear feels justified because every error feels like proof that you’ve hit your limit. But when you shift to a growth mindset, mistakes stop being proof of weakness. Instead, they’re part of your path to mastery. You begin to understand that everybody starts as a beginner until they meet mastery in a skill. Failure doesn’t define you. Effort isn’t a sign of lack — it’s the key to improvement. Progress matters more than perfection Practical Ways to Build a Growth Mindset 1. First and foremost, you have to believe it’s possible for you to improve and get better. It might sound simple, but it’s the first step to becoming your greatest self. When athletes don’t believe it’s possible, it’s the exact opposite of a growth mindset and it keeps you stuck. 2. Add “Yet” to Your Thinking When you catch yourself saying, “I’m not good at this,” add “yet.” → “I’m not good at this yet.” It’s a small word that shifts your thinking from limitation to possibility. “Yet” helps you see that this is a skill that can be developed and improved upon through effort and reps. 3. Mistakes are Data—use the information to help you grow After a tough game or practice, ask yourself: What did I learn? What will I do differently next time? What went well despite the mistake? 4. Focus on the Process, Not the Outcome Instead of obsessing over stats, rankings, or wins, focus on controllables — your effort, your attitude, your preparation. The more you value growth over results, the less perfection will control you. 5. Embrace Feedback as a Tool to Help you Grow—Not a Personal Attack Coaches correct you because they see potential. Listen to feedback without taking it as criticism of who you are — it’s simply a roadmap to improvement. 6. Celebrate Small Wins Every bit of progress deserves recognition. Whether it’s better body language, improved focus, or a new personal best, celebrating small wins reinforces growth over perfection. The most successful athletes aren’t the ones who never fail — in fact, they have likely failed more than anyone else. The difference is that they didn’t stop, they kept going and showed grit through their adversity. They’re the ones who learn, adapt, and keep going. A growth mindset frees you from the pressure of perfection and helps you rediscover the love of competing and improving. You don’t need to be perfect. You just need to keep growing—and keep in mind that everyone grows at different rates. 

A Roadmap for College Sports Recruitment: Guiding Athletes Through the Journey

September 26, 2025
Becky Meline, LIMHP MGCP For many athletes, the dream of playing at the next level is both exciting and overwhelming. Junior year is a huge year both academically and athletically if you have a child interested in playing at the next level. The college recruitment process is filled with opportunities, but it also brings its fair share of stress, distractions, and comparison. To help you navigate this journey with confidence, here’s a roadmap that balances the practical side of recruiting with the mental and emotional skills needed to thrive. Know Your Path and Set Goals The first step in the recruitment journey is clarity. I tell my athletes that this is the “information gathering stage”--- Ask yourself: What level of college athletics am I realistically aiming for (Division I, II, III, NAIA, JUCO)? What type of school environment do I want academically and socially? How far from home am I comfortable going? Do they have the major that I am interested in studying? How much does it cost to go there in case I don’t get a full ride? Setting goals not only gives you direction but also helps you avoid distractions. When you know what you’re aiming for, it’s easier to tune out noise and comparison. This starts to give you a direction when you feel overwhelmed with where to start. Market Yourself Effectively College coaches don’t just “find” athletes anymore—you need to put yourself out there. Here’s how: Highlight videos: Create a short, clear highlight reel showcasing your best plays and skills. Keep it professional and concise. Player profile: Prepare an athletic résumé that includes stats, GPA, academic honors, contact info, and coach references. Social media presence: Keep your accounts clean, professional, and reflective of your character. Coaches notice how you present yourself online. Remember: marketing yourself is about showing your strengths, but also about being authentic. Coaches want athletes who fit their culture, not just highlight reels. Master the Conversation with Coaches Talking with college coaches can feel intimidating, but preparation helps. This is one of the biggest stressors for my athletes--knowing how to present themselves and what to say. Be respectful and direct: Always address coaches properly, thank them for their time, and be clear in your communication. Ask good questions: Inquire about team culture, academic expectations, and how they see you fitting into their program. I encourage my athletes to look into the program before you have a phone call so that it shows your level of interest in the school. Follow through: If a coach asks for film, transcripts, or updates, send them promptly. Reliability speaks volumes. Confidence comes from preparation. Practice with your high school or club coach, or even role-play conversations with a parent, so you’re ready when opportunities come. Handle the Mental Side of Recruiting The recruiting process can easily weigh on your mental health if you don’t protect yourself. Here are some common challenges—and strategies to handle them: Social Media Comparison It’s easy to scroll and see other athletes posting their commitments or offers and wonder, Why not me? Remember: everyone’s journey looks different. Instead of comparing, focus on your growth and opportunities. Celebrate others, but stay committed to your own path. Balancing Recruiting and Your Season Recruiting can feel like a full-time job. But your number one priority should always be your high school or club season—keep in mind that is where you are getting the highlight reels to send out! Coaches want to see you competing at your best, not burned out by the pressure of emails and highlight videos. I encourage my athletes to set aside designated times each week to handle recruiting tasks so it doesn’t take over your life. Whether that’s an open period you have each week or Sunday afternoons for a couple of hours—compartmentalize your time because you can only put your energy into one thing at a time. I tell my athletes that “no matter how well you worry about recruiting during school, practice or games, it is just wasted energy in that moment” so save it for your designated time. Managing Stress and Distractions Recruiting brings highs and lows—some coaches may show interest, others may not—and that doesn’t mean you’re not good enough. It’s important to stay grounded: Practice mindfulness or breathing exercises before games. Lean on trusted adults for perspective. Keep a journal of small wins to remind yourself of progress. Remember the Bigger Picture At the end of the day, recruitment isn’t just about where you play or what Division you’re in—it’s about where you’ll grow. The right program is one where you’ll thrive athletically, academically, socially and personally. Stay patient, keep working, and trust that the right fit will come. Final Thoughts  The college recruitment journey is as much about mental resilience as it is about athletic talent. With a clear roadmap—setting goals, marketing yourself, preparing for coach conversations, and protecting your mindset—you can move through the process with confidence. Focus on what you can control, enjoy the ride, and remember: your worth isn’t defined by an offer, but by the effort, character, and dedication you bring every single day.